At first, we tend to look at a partner through rose-colored glasses. He is all you dreamed about: intelligent, talented, beautiful, perfect for you.
All this may be just about your partner. But in order to avoid unnecessary emotional suffering - for himself and for him - it is necessary to evaluate his positive and negative sides.
Unfortunately, most people prefer an illusion, not the truth. But in the end, this leads to sad consequences: a toxic relationship and a broken heart.
That is why below we have listed 5 warning signs that indicate that you are in the early stage of a failed relationship:
1. You can not talk to your partner about the problems.
One of the main reasons for parting is the inability of partners to solve problems together. All couples have conflicts. This is normal. But the bottom line is how you solve them. Is your partner leaving? Closes from you? Shifts the blame on you? Suffers a tantrum? These are bad signs.
In good relations, couples can and will discuss problems, listen to each other’s points of view and express theirs. No one needs to win or lose.
2. Your partner shows the features of a daffodil.
Daffodils are not able to sympathize. They do not believe that they may be mistaken in something, they always feel like a victim, and you are blamed for simply expressing your feelings in a particular situation. With such a person, all conversations and life revolve around him with constant manipulations over you.
3. Your partner does not respect your boundaries.
Very often, emotional manipulators try to justify their actions by differences in character. But this is only an excuse. If someone starts not respecting your boundaries, you better leave. Maybe you are not ready to meet his parents yet, but he forces you to do it. Maybe he urges you to move in or marry. Maybe he is trying to change your style, hairstyle or something else that makes you up and is uncomfortable with you.
4. Your partner strongly criticizes his ex.
Whatever a person does in past relationships, he will most likely do it again. This means that if you listen carefully,how your partner describes his past relationships, or how he talks about the former, you can understand a lot about how he will treat you. If he blames the former, this is a bad sign. So he does not know how to take responsibility for himself, at least for part of what happened. He does not learn anything. And you alone will have to build relationships.
5. If you have to justify what he does or says, even if you think it is really wrong, this is a bad sign.
We ourselves tend to close our eyes to what we don’t want to see. Especially if the person initially created a false-positive impression. So when he does something bad, your brain can convince you that this is not true, even if you understand that it’s true.