When you lose a guy with whom you never had anything, all you have is your thoughts on what could be. You do not understand why he does not feel to you the same as you to him?
Maybe you corresponded a lot or communicated, but then he suddenly distanced himself. Maybe you didn’t even communicate, you just caught some hints of what you wanted to see. But now it's over. How to survive such a "relationship"? How to get out of this with dignity, and not self-doubt and self-pity?
1. Realize that potential always looks better than reality.
Whatever you imagine are just fantasies. You may have a relationship you dream about, but not with him. Because the one who can give you such a relationship is not the one who abandoned you, not having time to get to know you better.
2. Not all people fit together.
I know you think it's your fault. What is wrong with you? Maybe you want to understand what you need to change so that your Prince will realize his mistake and come back to you. “Maybe I'm not sexy enough,” “Maybe I'm too friendly,” etc. But for the right guy it doesn't matter.
Maybe you met a guy who was in love with you, but you did not feel the same to him. You thought he was a good guy, but just not suitable for you.
If he doesn't like you, nothing will change his mind. Love doesn't work that way.
3. Surrender from him.
In the age of modern technology it is difficult to do, thanks to social networks, we all know about each other. How to forget someone when there are so many ways to follow him?
But you must be strong. You need to move away physically and emotionally. The more you think about it, the worse you think about yourself. He is the one whom you want and who does not want you, which means you are not worth anything - do you think so? Your mind will always go in that direction, but don't let it.
Remove him from your friends, punish yourself for following him online (for example, plus 1 km on a treadmill), or go somewhere for a few days - traveling often has a therapeutic effect.
4. Evaluate everything objectively.
I know you think that he was so cool, sexy, funny, that's all, but if he is a man, then I guarantee that he also has many shortcomings. So if you think about it, then think about the bad that is in it.
Don't look at him in pink glasses. Look objectively, look at the reasons why you did not succeed - they should be, because if he were the perfect guy for you, he would be with you.
5. You will never know what this could lead to.
Bad things often set us on the path to good, but only if we help ourselves to go in that direction. Suffering will not help. You need to accept your negative emotions and not reproach yourself for being so upset about it. But you need to try to stay positive.
Thinking that now your life is hopeless, you will not help yourself to find the love you want. You will only be miserable and deprive yourself of the joys of life.
Do not punish yourself for other people's decisions, mistakes or stupidity. His refusal means only that he does not suit you. Maybe because you're not the kind of woman with whom he represents himself, maybe because he survived the pain after past relationships. In general, it does not matter. Facts are important.
6. Please yourself.
In order not to suffer, do what brings you pleasure and joy, what makes you happy. Focus on being better.